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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Use humor. "Hey, watch out buddy! The twins don't like being stared at."[/quote]

See, this is the way to do it.  Comeon, folks, yelling at the perv to "get your fu... hands off my ass!" at her parents' house--she's NOT going to do it.  It's too vulgar.  And sure, she has a right to be vulgar, but she's not going to be vulgar and start a war at her parents' party.

But saying, "Hey, Larlo, watch those hands; I've got your number!" in a funny-but-warning tone is PERFECT because

1) it establishes a boundary, and

2) it warns him that if he continues then she will escalate into the public sphere (where other guests, and his wife, will hear)

It's basically a THREAT of outing him.  The guy needs the threat to keep him in line; he needs to know that he's got something to lose, and she is willing to go there if he doesn't knock it off.

BTW I've taken a number of classes on how to help your kids deal with pedophile situations.  For the parent talk, the instructor gave an example once of warning a pervy neighbor to back off from her DD.  She said, "Hey, Louie, I've got my eyes on you," while using her fingers to point to her eyes and then to him, in a warning way, but it was also not full-out-mama-bear growl, but more hostile-friendly.  Just put him on notice; pedophiles want easy targets, so it established that her DD was no easy target, because there was a mama bear watching. Anyways, I think the idea translates well into this adult/adult situation.[/quote]

This is exactly right.  It hits the sweet spot between not making a scene and stern warning, and it's short enough to articulate if speaking up is not your normal comfort zone.[/quote]

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