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[quote=Anonymous]My dad passed away several weeks ago. My husband and I don't have any children (yet), and it was a quieter period for my job, so I took a lot of sick leave and teleworked and was able to be there for most of his hospitalization and his passing. I guess that I was 'lucky' that it all worked out. But, if we would have had young kids, there's just absolutely no way that I could have been there for that constant vigil - the hospital just plain didn't allow little ones in the ICU units where my dad was.  As it was, we were scrambling to arrange pet care while I was away  - that was a LOT of stress, and pets can be left alone much longer than kiddos, obviously.

I guess that I'm just trying to give a realist viewpoint. Im glad that I was able to be there with my dad at the very end, but I also know that (for a variety of reasons) neither my mom or my dad were able to be there 24/7 at the end for their own parents, and my parents were/are devoted children to their parents (my grandparents).

I would recommend doing the best that you can, but realize that you just can't do everything. Being a caregiver is tough - be kind to yourself.[/quote]

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