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[quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry Op. this happened with my dad. There was about a minth when we knew it was terminal. I had a 1 and 4 year old. I went to two nights each week. On my last trip, I walked out of his bedroom and knew I'd never see him again. It was the hardest thing ever. Unfortunately when we are adults we have other responsibilities that we just can't drop (even though we may want to). I wish DH would've just said go and I'll take care of everything, but he didn't. It's just not practical. 
You just have to deal with it the best you can. Your mom knows you love her. Tell her as much as you can. 
When my dad was dying, the last time I left was a Thursday. Two days later my mom said he'd be going any day. My sister gave me an incredible about guilt about if I was coming back. She's unmarried and lives in the same town. 
I ultimately decided not to go back because I'd said my goodbye and to fly there to be there for his actual death, and then fly home and back again for the funeral didn't make sense. He didn't end up dying until Wednesday if then next week, and it was torture not to go back. My mom was very comforting during this time. She told me that my dad was a father and he had little kids at one point and he understood. It is still a big regret I have, but honestly it wouldn't have changed anything. 
I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's so incredibly difficult. [/quote]

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