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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Husband and I do well financially and have for about 10 years. Not rich, but [b]comfortable - big house, savings, retirement, college, travel[/b], etc. We have kids and are in our 30s. We are good friends with another couple who recently have gone from struggling to doing well financially after the husband got a great job opportunity two years ago. Ever since then, all they ever talk about is what they're buying and how much it costs. I'm happy for them, but it's just really irritating when you're hanging out with people who are obsessed with status. For example, they talk about going out to eat at some fancy restaurant and it only cost $500 for the meal. (Which I think is a waste of money, but not mine, so oh well) And what kind of car they're going to get, mercedes, land rover, tesla, etc. And talking about how they paid $700 for a pair of shoes and how awesome they are. Just really stupid stuff. And it's constant.

Here's why it truly bothers me - I feel like their attitude has completely changed and now they just act like smug, entitled people. We are not jealous. We have a few other friends who make tons of money as well, but hanging out with others isn't as uncomfortable because they're not constantly trying to show off their success. My husband and I are personally very frugal people, since we both grew up poor. Other than avoiding these people, which is what we've been doing lately, what is some good advice for dealing with this?[/quote]

First you have to face the fact that you are rich.  [/quote]

And jealous.[/quote]

OP doesn't sound jealous.  Our HHI is about 350k and we drive 5-6 year old used cars and put away 5-6 grand per month in addition to maxing out both 401(k)s and saving toward our kid's 529.  Like OP, we will be able to retire, if we choose to, at a reasonably young age, barring a job catastrophe (and, frankly, taking a job catastrophe into account we could stop saving for retirement now and take jobs that merely meet the household expenses and have around $3m in 25 years).  My reaction to OP's friends is that they are stupid with money and probably spending most of, if not all or more than, the money they earn.  They are probably a couple paychecks away from being put out of their house if the DH's great job opportunity goes away.  Even if that doesn't happen, they will  never be able to retire.  I get the sense that OP has the same reaction to her foolish friends.  There is nothing to envy about that. [/quote]

OP's post doesn't indicate that they are spending beyond their means, but even if that's the case, why would that make you so upset that you feel compelled to blast your friends online? If anything, I would either laugh at their foolishness or feel kinda sorry for them and leave it at that. [b]It's the bitchy rant that makes me think OP is secretly jealous of these people, [/b]while openly looking down at them.[/quote]

+1.  We also make a similar income (over 400k) and save a similar amount.  I have no desire to post a rant about my friends' spending habits because I don't care.  I also realize that everyone is different and some people don't mind spending everything and don't desire to retire early.  Different strokes for different folks.  I don't think my spend happy friends would want to live in our smaller house and make the sacrifices we are making.  [/quote]

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