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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'll answer!  I spent a lot of time and energy debating IVF.  I was extremely dramatic.  Nervous about the meds.  Constantly agonizing. Putting it off.  Convincing myself I didn't want to have a child, but I did deep down.  Telling myself well maybe it will happen naturally.  Spent a few years doing this.

I somehow bit the bullet and did a round of IVF.  It was seriously NO big deal.  It's a distant memory.  I'm now in my third trimester.  Honestly, pregnancy has been a lot more stressful than IVF.  I think the hardest part about IVF can be getting started.  If you can handle pregnancy you can handle IVF.

I just think it's sad if OP wants another child but chooses to not have one because she can't face IVF.  [/quote]

I get that. But, surely you've been on this board long enough to know that IVF meds affect different people differently. For example, some women really react to Lupron, while it doesn't bother others at all. Not all people on here have the same resources either - financial or emotional. (My DH was very supportive but I know others who were not.) Some people are also just not willing to take the step. It's not important enough to them. That's ok. [/b]You look at OP and clearly see yourself. But, she's not you[b].[/quote]

Right.   Most of us see through the world through our own eyes.  I just know I struggled in facing IVF and looking back I'm so glad I went through with it and it was way easier than I ever expected!  Surely my experience could help someone, including OP.

Fwiw - medication almost always affects people different and we all have different resources - financial or emotional.  This is true for everything in life, including IVF.    It's too bad OP expects to face side effects from the medication but the good news is you don't take the medication long at all.  Also very few of the medications are known for serious side effects or anything long lasting.  I think OP is simply using the medication as an excuse and she is overwhelmed.

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Not sure why you are having so much trouble getting out of your own experience. You really seem to be counseling yourself here. Not the OP. [/quote]

You also seem to be stuck on your own experience and seem to be counseling yourself!  [/quote]

I simply saw OP being bullied, frankly, and tried to step in nicely and encourage everyone to be a bit more compassionate. Perhaps you'll be able to be less defensive when this experience is a little further in your rear view mirror.

In the meantime, I hope that seeing this dialogue can help OP place some of the harsher, more hurtful comments she's received in appropriate perspective. [/quote]

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