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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Y'all need to lay off the OP. IVF is not right for everyone, even for people who might otherwise benefit from it. It's ok if the OP doesn't want to go down that road. Just because it was a decision you made does not mean she has to do it. And she's still allowed to ask questions about it, even if she still decides she doesn't want to do it. Seriously. I feel like I'm in an after school special, all the peer pressure going on here.

On the other hand, OP, I think you might be in the wrong forum. This forum is specifically for people who are undergoing fertility treatment. People here expect to be able to ask and get answers about IVF. [b]Your disinterest in those treatments is coming off as a bit tone deaf, [/b]under the circumstances. FYI - the TTC forum is for people who are simply trying - however it happens, with IVF or without. You will probably find more people there who, like you, are also on the fence or have chosen not to go the IVF route.

As a final comment, OP, it seems to me that you might benefit from fertility counseling. There are therapists who specialize in fertility-related issues. A good counselor would be much better at helping you work through your frustration and disbelief at your inability to get pregnant, and your sense of isolation, than an anonymous message board. Your issues are emotional. We can't really help with that.[/quote]

+1.

I disagree with the advice to go for counseling.  I think sitting around and talking about it will just make it worse.  If OP wants a baby she needs to take ACTION.  Not talk.  [/quote]

[b]The OP has already said she'd be ok with not having another child. [/b]So, your assumptions about her goals are simply wrong. Why is it so important to you?[/quote]

Then why is she posting on an infertility message board?   op clearly does want another child or she wouldn't be complaining about secondary infertility and how isolated she feels.  [/quote]

This is why I suggested she post on TTC, not here. She said on this thread that she would be ok if it never happens. That doesn't mean she doesn't want to keep trying or that she isn't allowed to feel frustrated. There are gray areas here, pp. She wants a child enough to keep trying naturally, but not enough to be willing to undergo treatment. What's complicated about that?

You haven't answered my question though. Why is it so important to you? [/quote]

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