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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be angry all you want. There has to be a reason he asked you what you do all day.  Your "I'd rather focus on my child instead" of gasp, housework, says a lot.

SAHP means more than playtime with the kids. It means you trade one job for another. You sound like my sister. She screams abuse because her husband wanted home cooked food, clean clothes and a neat, not spotless, neat tidy home. She thought housekeeping was beneath her. Her ex fixed that.[/quote]

This is so bizzaire a stay-at-home parent who doesn't want to do any housekeeping work,  then what exactly is she doing at home? I was raised by a single full time working  mom of 4 and the house was  always clean and we had home cooked meals. [/quote]

I am sorry I don't understand this either. My mom was a sahm all her days and the house was clean, really clean. We weren't allowed to have toys and crap in the living room. Only our room. You want to play go to your room and play with your toys. If you bring a toy downstairs, take it back up to your room or it gets thrown out. Teaches the kids responsibility after they see some of there stuff tossed. Mom did laundry, made meals and this was back in the days of no microwaves. My mother had 4 kids and we played in the yard or with other kids in the neighborhood. None of this driving all over dodge to entertain us. Here is a box, entertain yourself. My dad was military so shit had to be right. My mom didn't have a lot of the conveniences that SAHM have now. How did she do it and they can't now?[/quote]

I'll give you 2 choices and you pick the most likely one.  1) parents don't really parent anymore and treat the kids like little, special adults (snowflakes) so they get to do what they want and become narcissistic selfish little assholes or 2) somehow something changed (in the water?) and in the last 30 years every third kid born is really on the spectrum somewhere and are special needs so deserving of an environment with no rules, discipline or a swift kick to the ass when they act out.
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I think it's reason #3:

Parents these days feel like they have to spend all their time educating/singing/reading/playing with their toddlers, otherwise they will be academically behind and won't get into a good college.

Don't get me wrong.. I did all of these things but I also cleaned the house.  I am the PP who stated that teaching your 3 yr old how to occupy themselves is a good thing to teach.  It's kind of like how now a days parents don't want to punish their children but would rather let them suffer natural consequences.  Depending on the situation, I just let them suffer the natural consequences; other times, I do punish them.

I do find this post kind of funny though, because most of the time, men only really complain if they aren't getting enough in the sack. Most men don't seem to complain about an unkempt house, unless the house is really dirty.  Or maybe OP's DH is getting neither, hence he is complaining about the house.

IDK, maybe OP's DH is one of the few men who cares a lot about a messy house?[/quote]

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