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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sure she's putting a positive spin on it on social media because what else could she say? Little Jaden is home because he had a mental health crisis/failed out/drank too much? Do you think she should go on social media and say she is disappointed with her son's failure? [/quote]

OP clearly thinks she should be so embarrassed as to not mention anything on social media. You know what? Some people try to find positives in bad situations and need to find a way to appreciate that. I find that your generation, OP, fills this "way of appreciation" via explanatory FB posts (way, way more than mine at 36, never mind young people).[/quote]

Yes, she should be embarrassed her college-aged son has returned home after a failed and wasted attempt at college. There's nothing to BOAST about it. I don't think it's "spin" I think she's genuinely excited to have him home. What does the "bragging" tell her son and the younger siblings? That it's OK to quit and be a loser underachiever. She's normalizing immature behavior.

There's far more to the story -- I wouldn't have made this thread if it was mental health or a ailment. She coddled him and continues to coddle him, thus, unable to function and all too eager to run home to mommy's warm embrace. This is conditioned behavior that won't end because she's continue to coddle him.[/quote]

You don't put all that love and effort into raising a kid who does so well in school and on the SAT that he gets into a selective school like UVA....and then do a happy dance when things don't work out for him at college.  My guess is that he had been struggling for a while with the course work, started getting more into his major and simply couldn't hack it.  By the time he came home his parents knew that he was likely coming home.

Instead of hiding their heads in shame, they decided to welcome their boy home with open arms and let him take a breather for a while before he gears up and digs his heels in again.

Honestly, I think the one who should feel ashamed of herself right now is this young man's aunt.  [/quote]

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