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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This doesn't sound good, op.  Do not marry this guy because you will be even more frustrated once you get married and then again if you decide to have kids.  Just get out now.[/quote]

I agree with this. Red flags everywhere. [/quote]

I have been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. I have watched several of my friends date/marry/divorce generous guys who live above their means so I may have a different perspective. Far better to have a financially responsible spouse than a man who is overly generous and racks up debt to pay for it.

DH is a physician. I met him when he was in med school so I outearned him for most of our relationship. He now earns a very high living but still spends like he was a resident surgeon earning 50-60k per year. We save a crazy amount of money. At first we were just trying to pay down our student loans. Now we are debt free and building net worth and there just isn't much we want to spend and buy.[/quote]

But we don't know that this is about the fiance being "financially responsible" and asking the OP to pay for half of her gift because he's trying to save money. In fact, based on what OP has posted, this is more about how they give gifts for each other. They are not on the same page. That's a completely different issue. A partner can be financially responsible and still make their partner feel special with gifts. Those gifts don't have to cost much--it's about the effort. OP isn't getting what she wants. [/quote]

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