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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone who has close friends who redshirted their July D, I've learned that it can easily backfire. This girl started K right after she turned 6 and excelled in school, especially in reading and writing. Very early on, she earned a reputation as "the smart kid", and was always very proud of herself until 6th grade. One day, she was helping her 6th-grade English teacher prepare for the next day's lesson, and they somehow winded up talking about birthdays, and when her teacher found out she would be turning 13 the following July, she said something along the lines of, "So that's why you're doing so well. Your parents held you back a year. That was smart of them." She then went on to explain how studies showed that older kids usually did better in school. Well, after that, she never thought of herself as smart again. Every time she accomplished something, she said something along the lines of, "I'm supposed to doing better than everybody. I'm older than everybody." She continued to excel throughout middle school and high school, was principal flutist of her all-state honor orchestra for all 4 years of high school, ended up getting into a top conservatory, and now, at 27, plays the flute professionally. But said she found it difficult to feel proud of herself. This is just something to consider for those who plan to redshirt to boost child's self-esteem, as it could very well do the opposite.

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Red shirting causes [the horror] a lifetime sentence of flute-playing. Now I've seen it all. [/quote]

The flute-playing has nothing to do with it. I just added that in to show that she became successful. My main point was that it really hurt her self-esteem when she find out that her accomplishments were merely because of her age, rather than a special personal aspect that she had thought she had.[/quote]

But, more than likely she would have been fine and playing the flute if she went on time.  Its silly to only use situations like that when a child cannot have two lives so there is no way to compare how they would do if they went onetime.  It isn't that she was smarter, but she was basically dumbed down being older and not doing work on her age level.[/quote]

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