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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes 41 is too old to have a baby if you are actually thinking about the child and not your own selfish desires. You'll be nearly 60 when that child reaches adulthood. You made the choice to put off having children for whatever reasons (career, traveling, enjoying your life, whatever) and by having a child at 41 you deny your own child that choice. Like it or not, if you have a kid that late, you are dooming them to have to take your care into consideration when they make life choices they should be able to make freely. [/quote]

60 is not that old and if my kids are only in their late teens/early 20's why in the hell would I expect them to take care of me?  That's my job.

If I had kids 10 years earlier than I did and I get sick in my 50's it would still not be up to my children to take care of me.  Again - that is my job.

I personally do not expect my kids to put their own lives on hold to take care of me.  No one wants to get sick but this idea that you have kids in order to have free nursing care is for the birds.  My children have their own lives and I want them to LIVE them and be happy and have fun.  Not be tied to my sick bed while their youth and opportunities slip away...

I have put too much time, energy and love into my kids to lay a load of guilt like that at their feet.  My only regret in that situation would be that I could not be there more for them.

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