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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes 41 is too old to have a baby if you are actually thinking about the child and not your own selfish desires. You'll be nearly 60 when that child reaches adulthood. You made the choice to put off having children for whatever reasons (career, traveling, enjoying your life, whatever) and by having a child at 41 you deny your own child that choice. Like it or not, if you have a kid that late, you are dooming them to have to take your care into consideration when they make life choices they should be able to make freely. [/quote]

Whenever people self-righteously start up with the "it's selfish to have a baby after 40 and you should have had children earlier and so you made your bed now lie in it" litany, it seems clear that people are just being spiteful about modern women having control over their bodies and lives and over when to have children.  Why?  Because I'm old enough (45) to know tons of families where mothers routinely had children into their forties--I grew up in a heavily Catholic area and it was COMMON for women to have multiple children with the last one or even two born to older mothers over 40.  Yet no one blinked an eye, and certainly no one accused these lovely women of being "selfish" and not thinking of their children.  Unless you think entire previous generations of women were horrible selfish people by having children later in life, then the double-standard is obvious.

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While some women certainly have had children over the age of Forty in the past, it has never been routine.

Personally,,I wouldn't do it, particularly for a first child, but if you are able to conceive and want to, it's your decision.[/quote]

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