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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd like the Moms here who went back to work when their babies were 6 months or younger to tell me honestly: Do you think your child was just as well being in daycare compared to being with you?[/quote]

Excellent question. Anyone?

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I'll bite.

Yes! He was probably better off because he spent a chunk of the day being cared for by someone experienced, rested, and not wracked by postpartum hormones. I loved the hell out of that kid, but no way was I as good a baby-nurse as some of those women during the first year. He had awesome caregivers who knew what the  heck they were doing and didn't freak out over every hiccup.

[b]One woman raising a child at home in isolation is a recent and deeply unnatural development.[/b] It's always taken a village. [/quote]

I so agree with this!  I don't understand why some people promote the idea of mom as caregiver 24/7 -- some PPs have even proposed that a father cannot provide the level of care that a mother can.  It seems like some women get their entire self worth from being a mommy martyr (obviously plenty of SAHMs are not this way).  But some make it a competition of who can spend the most time at home caring for their child.

Bonding with your baby is important and ideally we would all get 6 months or so of maternity leave, but that's obviously not possible for everyone.  Once a good bond is established, then let your kids experience the world and allow others help care for them.  I don't know if there has ever been another time in history when women were expected to provide childcare to the exclusion of contributing to other societal activities.

I was raised by a SAHM and remember finally being so excited to finally go to preschool and get to be around other kids! [/quote]

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