Reply to Sister says 14yo nephew not coming to my wedding because of his sports tournament. Thoughts?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Sister says 14yo nephew not coming to my wedding because of his sports tournament. Thoughts?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some people who love me missed my wedding.

I was gracious and said, only nice things to them about it.  Life went on and it just didn't matter.

[/quote]

Thanks! This is how mature people feel about it.[/quote]

What if your sister missed your wedding because she had a work Xmas party or your mom missed because she volunteers every weekend at her church. Give me a break. Not what pages OP's responses are on (they all start "OP here") but she never said she didn't say only nice things about it to the sister or nephew. This is an anonymous online vent. Or actually she said she was checking her thinking with us. [/quote]

Really?  That's your analogy?  Do you really think my mom would do something like that if it weren't typical of who she was, for better or worse (and what if her volunteering was a very large soup kitchen, and her backup was sick -- I'd be fine.  I'd still be married. or what if she was being selfish and this was typical -- then I'd be angry about her being a selfish person and probably be glad she baled.)  Again, it is just a wedding.  I'd be a lot more upset if she came to my wedding and then was awful to my spouse thereafter.  That is the part that really matters.[/quote]

That it is just a wedding is your value.  Is it an abomination to think of a wedding as more than a dumb event that the couple might as well do by themselves in a courthouse?  Apparently if you think it is more than just a routine event, you're a nut and self-centered or selfish.  I thought of my wedding as a family moment beyond just me and my husband.  I guess I'm a real dick.[/quote]

My real point, without the name calling, is that none of us control the universe and none of us are at the center of other people's universes.  No good comes from creating family drama.  A wedding is not a routine event, that is for sure, but honestly, my wedding mattered more to me than to anyone else.  I appreciate those who came to celebrate with me, but I waste no energy judging on those who did not.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics