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np here. I think you reeeeeally misunderstood the update.  [/quote]

I don't think so. I think the people who say that she's just ranting her anonymously misunderstood the update. She's clearly [i]not[/i] just ranting here anonymously. By her own admission, she's talking with other family members about how terrible her sister's choices are and how much better hers are and will be. That's not just anonymous ranting; that's turned into being nasty in her own family. It's terrible, spoiled behavior.

Look, sometimes people don't go to weddings for reasons other than the choice you might personally make. It happens. In my family, wedding would trump child sports, but going around talking about how awful other people are about making other choices would definitely [i]not[/i] be okay. That's unkind behavior no matter what the circumstances. OP's update makes it clear to me that the people who spotted her as a Bridezilla early on were right. Talking unkindly about her sister to family member -- and worse, by implication, doing the same about her her nephew/niece -- is a self-centered and crappy thing to do.

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You seem a bit over the top and not in touch with anyone's reality but what you fantasize.

What you said:  She is talking with other family members about how terrible her sister's choices are and how much better hers are and will be.  She's going around talking about how awful the sister is in making the choice she made.
Your translation:  That's nasty in her own family and terrible, spoiled behavior.  It's talking unkindly about her sister and nephew.  Self-centered.

What OP said:  She spoke with her mom about the situation, who could've been irate or sympathetic and called her about it.  She told her mom to give her hell if she makes the same choice in 14 years.
A rationale person's translation:  In what family would the aunt and mom NOT have a conversation about what transpired?  The aunt could have been talking the mom off the ledge with some humor.  Clearly the mom had an issue with it too.  Can they not be privately mad at or disappointed in the sister?  Can they not process it together?  Weird experctation that everyone just remain silent and do not discuss the nephew's surprise absense.

Looks like if you were the sister, you'd be the one causing family drama (man are you over-dramatic; your interpersonal lens is OFF) and a long-lasting family riff.  Nice.

FYI, there's one person on here saying Bridezilla.  No one else agrees.  So it's probably you despite your "change of heart" claim?

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