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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]F the patriarchy and the expectation that I work FT and handle every family obligation and holiday.

To those who say don’t do it, well you’re depriving your kids of normal holiday rituals. You’ll also be sacrificing your marriage since the societal expectation is that as a woman you create a nice home life. If you don’t go along with this, you’ll struggle to have friends and your DH might replace you.

It’s a scam and the only solution is to NOT HAVE CHILDREN, which plenty of young women have realized. [/quote]

If Easter was important to me I would have married a Christian man who wanted to celebrate it. I don't get upset about not celebrating holidays that mean nothing to me and I don't raise my kids with expectations that they will receive gifts for holidays we don't celebrate.[/quote]

Then this post isn’t for you. You don’t celebrate Easter.

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DP This post does raise the topic of whether celebrating Easter a certain way is a requirement for being a good parent.

Specifically:

Easter themed candy (as determined by one spouse) = good parenting
Non-Easter themed candy (as determined by one spouse) = bad parenting[/quote]

This is on a relationship site.  It isn’t about parenting.  
Even if they weren’t his kids, and a neighbor asked him to pick up candy to fill Easter eggs with, it would be weird for him to wait two weeks, give them random candy from the checkout counter, and be pissed if they didn’t use it.  [/quote]

But would OP still be complaining about her husband if it weren't for his failure to provide them with the Instagram worthy Easter egg hunt that OP has decided single handedly they deserve?[/quote]

Like if OP asked her neighbor to pick up some candy to fill eggs with, and he waited two weeks, gave her candy from the checkout counter, and was mad that she didn’t use it?

I think she would probably feel like he was a weird dude and annoyed that he was mad.

I doubt that she would be looking to date him.  
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The neighbor scenario is stupid, not talking about that. Just generally. if you don't get your kids the "good" candy for a religious holiday none of you celebrate, does that make him a bad husband or just a bad dad? OPs argument is he's a bad dad for not doing this b/c it's the kids who have been whipped up into a frenzy over this by, presumably, OP. Does that make him a bad husband?[/quote]

I think that not getting your wife the candy she asked for makes you a bad husband.  [/quote]

What about if the husband disagreed and voiced his disapproval? He should just cave and do as she demands? Why doesn't that make her a bad wife?[/quote]

BUT HE DIDN'T. He waited until the last minute and then got crappy candy and then got mad at OP for going to get candy their kids would like. He didn't voice his frustrations with the Easter baskets/eggs until later. [/quote]

What candy do you prefer?

We'd like to judge your crap preferences. [/quote]

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