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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sister who was overweight her entire adult life is now on Ozempic and bordering on emaciated. Now she’s telling me I need to go on it. So fun. I just said, “I don’t want to talk about this.”[/quote]

My sister went on Ozempic, but won't admit that to our parents. So she claims that she lost all the weight by cutting out gluten after being diagnosed as celiac. Now my mom makes this elaborate production of gluten-free meals or finding a restaurant that can accommodate my "gluten free" sister. Sister eats gluten like it's going out of style when my parents aren't around. I make a point of eating gluten around them. Sister is very peeved with me, "why are you eating pizza in front of me when you know I can't eat gluten around mom?!" Girl, you got yourself into this mess with your lies, I have no interest in making this easier on you. Own your Ozempic use.

I don't care that she uses it. I care about the lying and I'm immensely irritated that now my mom looks at me, slightly overweight, and goes "tsk tsk, you should really stop eating gluten....like your sister! Look at how skinny she is now!"[/quote]

Telling people you have celiac, a very serious disease, when it's not true is terrible.  :([/quote]

Agreed, and yet it's weirdly common. I know multiple people who claim to have "developed" celiac in their late 30s and 40s. But it's also the kind of celiac where apparently you can consume gluten sometimes if you really, really want to and it's a special occasion. I have a close family member who actually has celiac and so much resentment towards these attention seekers who fake it for attention or to conceal things. It creates a dangerous situation because when lots of people are faking celiac, it disincentivizes restaurants and others from taking the restriction seriously, and creates the risk that someone with celiac will wind up ingesting gluten in something they have been told is gluten free.

I just generally hate the trend of people inventing food allergies for their own convenience. Food allergies suck! Why would you do this?![/quote]

The gluten free people who do it as part of a general health kick and a self-diagnosed "gluten intolerance" know they are viewed as insufferable and want to be taken more seriously.  So they lie.

To bring it back to thanksgiving vents, we had a gluten and dairy free guest (same deal...makes exceptions when they feel like it) at our meal (significant other of family member) and I did absolutely zero to accommodate and didn't pay attention to what this person ate.  Gave it zero thoughts.  That's about what it deserves.  And please never bring your gluten-free baked products and tell me all about it and make me pretend they taste good.  They don't.[/quote]

Food stuff is hard.

My family has one person with a serious gluten intolerance, one with a dairy allergy (carries an epi-pen for it), and one person who can't do gluten or dairy without terrible stomach issues. I take those all very seriously when I cook and do it happily, because I don't want to make anyone sick.

And then there's my BIL who is a vegetarian and kind of obnoxious about it. I make all the sides vegetarian and make him a separate vegetarian gravy and make a vegetarian main dish for him every year. And every couple of years, he wants me to reinvent the wheel with a new main dish for him. And I get that he doesn't just want to have sides, but it's hard to keep coming up with different mains for him every other year, especially when the rest of the menu is pretty much on repeat. He doesn't like stuffed mushrooms or stuffed peppers, because "everyone always makes that for vegetarians." He won't do tofurkey anymore. He's over stuffed squash and over pot pie. The new thing this year was a vegetarian chili. I will bend over backwards to keep people safe around food, but it's grating when it's a choice that you just want everyone to cater to.[/quote]

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