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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] He's probably 18 now (op said 'spring) so hopefully the dc and the op don't have to worry about this anymore.[/quote]

If not yet it's getting closer.[/quote]

Hi. OP here:

Yes, my son turned 18 a little bit ago. The hell is over.

To the nasty other PP who said I “should be fined”: you’ll be happy to know the court ultimately ordered my ex to pay MY attorneys fees for bringing a frivolous motion. We did have one hearing. The judge found that I did nothing wrong and that I made all efforts to comply with the schedule. I had to go deeper into debt to pay for a lawyer, so this was a relief. I could share more details as to how exactly this all went down, but I don’t want to be easily identified.

After all this, my son is no longer speaking to my ex. And believe it or not, even though he is now 18, I have encouraged my son to go up to his dad’s any time he wants. I’ve told him he can go spend as much time as he wants there this summer, to try and “start over” with his dad. My DS won’t do it. I sincerely hope that will change in time.

I would not wish the last 9 months on my worst enemy, like I said earlier. It didn’t have to end up this way, and I’m pissed at my ex for it.

Let my experience be a cautionary tale to those parents who don’t want to listen to their 17.5 year old’s opinions and at least TRY to work out a compromise. [/quote]

Of course your son is refusing visits.  You've been clear all along that you don't want him to have visits except maybe an occasional dinner or meet up so he's doing it to make you happy.  [/quote]

OP here:

You clearly haven’t read a single one of my posts carefully, troll.[/quote]

I read your version which was you were setting this all up by finding every way in terms of excuses to sever the relationship. You taught your son friends, parties and activities are more important than dad.  Dad has no value to your child.   You won.  There is now no relationship.  Move on.  Let dad move on. Leave the man alone already.   Stop pretending you want them to have a relationship as if you really do, you’ve already done too much damage.  [/quote]

Why are you such a cheerleader for this loser Dad? Even the judge saw through his crap.

This is all on BAD DAD.

He didn't prioritize his son. So now he is done-zo.[/quote]

Why is this bad dad if dad is trying to have a relationship and the mom is blocking it, including going to court for it.  What kind of message does that send to the child?  It is clear mom doesn't want the relationship.  Why can't you see Mom is equally if not more the problem.  No matter how much Dad tries he'll always be in the wrong.  Child is 18/high school graduate.  Hopefully child support is over and Mom can be the sole parent now - both physically and financially as that's what she wants.[/quote]

You insert all your own crazy prejudices into this. If Dad were that great son would want to spend time with him. Dad made the decision to move away and be inflexible.

When I was a senior I was nonstop busy with activities. No I did not hang put with my parents then. I had school, a job, a boyfriend, friends, etc. I was in every club imaginable and was insanely busy
 Luckily my parents were mega proud of their kid and didn’t whine like Dad did.

They wanted me to enjoy every minute of it.[/quote]

The difference is you lived with both your parents.  My teens like to hang out with us.  Ever stop to think why yours don’t?  [/quote]

Do your teens regularly hang out with you for 48 consecutive hours?

My teen likes me.  But there's never a weekend where he doesn't go to his job, or a sporting event, or out with friends, or anything else.  He can like me, and also enjoy other things.  [/quote]

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