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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, do you and your husband have a sex life? Have you had sex since the 3 year old was born?

Is he a lawyer too?

Were you a SAHM when he lost his job?

Divorce looks really likely for you guys. Unless you get therapy I'm not sure you will be less angry and resentful of an ex-DH.

OP, what was your childhood like? How was your rx with your dad? Do you have issues with authority figures at work? It just feels like there is so much anger and unhappiness and disconnection and resentment. Maybe some patterns are being recreated? [/quote]

I have never not worked. He made more than me after law school, but I’ve always worked.
Definitely have huge resentment surrounding his period of unemployment. He decided to pursue a passion project after being laid off they takes twice as much time and makes 1/3 of his prior salary. We are not wealthy. If we had more money I would outsource more things like cleaning babysitters for date night etc. I have asked him for years to consider (even apply) for higher paying jobs. He will not. And before I get flamed again, NO I’m not going to be the one to go run for a higher paying job bc I carry the benefits and I need to make sure we are stable. [/quote]

Your focus on being "flamed" here is striking since most have been supportive. You seem very locked into a victim mentality even though the reality is different.

How can you be a lawyer and not have a high paying job? Are you a fed? Is he a lawyer too? If he got laid off from BigLaw how could he possibly be doing work now that requires MORE time?

Your life sounds absolutely tragic for your child, ngl, so much tension and passive aggressiveness and the dynamic just seems toxic. [/quote]

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