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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister, who almost never hosts holiday gatherings, offered to host this year.  I offered to make some things and we exchanged emails about what each of us would contribute.  She deleted some of what my family wanted, e.g. roasted vegetables and corn pudding, so I added them back to the list and that apparently made them my responsibility.  She asked us to bring pies in addition to the side dishes we were making.  She roasted the turkey but “doesn’t like” gravy, so that was on us too.

Long story short, she made the turkey, mashed potatoes, a vegetable and a salad.  We made the other 2/3 of the meal - multiple pies, corn pudding, roasted vegetables, cranberry sauce, gravy, a few other things - and transported it to her house in big Costco type boxes.

By the time we sat down, I was as tired as if I were the one hosting.

Never again.[/quote]

She did more. Why the hell did you make roasted veg and corn pudding on top of everything else. Why did you make all this crap against your own will? Prepping her house and cooking was much more work and responsibility than martyr-cooking a bunch of unwanted items and sticking them in boxes. What sides did you make that were even wanted? Cranberry sauce it appears. Then she had to clean up.[/quote]

I agree. Everything she made except maybe the pies are easy peasy to make. [/quote]

We made what people wanted to eat.  Our kids and hers wanted roasted vegetables and corn pudding.  They also wanted homemade cranberry sauce and one of our kids is a vegetarian so we made a vegetarian main.  We bought Trader Joe's gravy, which everyone except my sister likes, and I made three pies.  None of it was "crap" and we didn't make dishes "against our will" but rather because the only way to ensure that everyone got to eat what they wanted was to make these things ourselves.  It was all wanted by everyone involved, except my sister.

Her approach is that if she doesn't like it, then she doesn't make and serve it.  She doesn't like brussels sprouts, corn pudding, cranberry sauce, or gravy, so she doesn't make them.  She's not a vegetarian so won't make a vegetarian-friendly main dish.  She's not a baker so doesn't make pies.

Bottom line, the only way to have an abundant Thanksgiving with dishes we wanted on the table was to make it ourselves.

We stayed to help clean up.

Does that answer your questions?[/quote]

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