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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs (MIL, three BILs, SIL, niece and nephew) stayed with us for a week.  They are overall lovely people but I have so many vents now.  It will be a while before I sign up for hosting them all for an extended period of time again.

The biggest thing is that they never miss a chance to make some comment about how our house is small despite being expensive, or we don't have a real yard, or asking pointedly if we plan to move somewhere else for better "quality of life" (yes my BIL asked us this). They all live in various exurbs in California and Florida (with the exception of one BIL who is military and lives on a base). I [b]feel like I bit my tongue for a week not to be like "for me quality of life means avoiding depressing places like where you live."  
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It's just different priorities/preferences, but they can't fathom that we actually chose our old house in NWDC over the possibility of a 5000sf McMansion and don't get that it's rude to be openly incredulous about it.[/quote]

Why can't you say this? Even to nice people it's Ok to say "I know it's small but we love city life. The tradeoff is so worth it for us." And to your inlaws who are criticizing you, it would be completely understandable to say the bolded above. I mean, if they're dishing out little dogs at your house, they should expect to get something back. [/quote]

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