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Having spent my career working with kids on the spectrum, just from these clips alone he is not Level 3.  I have looked at their other clips with him from when they adopted him to the most recent and I don't see him digressing either.  Many kids can see fine until they are 1 or 2 and then begin a progression into more severe behaviors like losing eye contact or gaining repetitive/restrictive behaviors. Even when disciplining him he makes very good eye contact.  While non verbal he can clearly communicate.

He is clearly a kid who is special needs but definitely not in the "severe" category from from all kids I have worked with.  That said, THEY are not a good fit for him so it is best that he be taken away from them -- which is most likely what the professionals made happen.  If you have a family unwilling to help a child (and it is a ton of work) then the one who suffers is the child.  He deserves a bright future which this family was not going to provide for him.[/quote]

It's good to hear a pro chime in on this.  I agree that it is good that this boy is being placed elsewhere.  These people never should have gotten him in the first place. [/quote]
I’ve also worked in early childhood special Ed and wouldn’t make any calls based on videos. I have taught many lovey, sweet, intelligent children who also have severe, uncontrollable meltdowns. They type that injure other kids and adults and can last for hours. I’m neutral on this whole situation because there is no way to know how bad it was. Maybe they weren’t a good family for him, maybe it’s much deeper. [/quote]

I am the PP you quoted and I agree with you.  I am actually neutral on his meltdowns since those are the things which are unpredictable and pushes most parents to the edge.  Those can't be judge by the quick clips she posts of his meltdowns.  I was more speaking to a Level 3 diagnosis which they say he has.  That I don't see.  A level 3 isn't something that you can't see in videos.  It is always there.  Definitely delayed and non verbal (at this time).  And his delays may never get better, that is why I said he is better off with a different family.  This family is not going to give him what he needs.  He needs a family which is 100% in it for him.  That isn't this one.[/quote]

Yikes on my double negative sentence.  What I was trying to say is that level 3 kids, who are severe, always show signs of it.  That isn't something that they can sometimes have the behaviors and sometimes not have the behaviors in videos.  The videos of him and now I have watched many, have long clips where he is not showing any level 3 type spectrum issues.  When she is talking to him he is making great eye contact.  His movement are purposeful.  His signs are clear and when she is speaking he isn't distracted.  Well other than what a normal toddler would find distracting.[/quote]

Levels for ASD don't refer to the severity of the autistic symptoms, they refer to the level of support that the individual needs, and they aren't meant as a permanent diagnosis, they are meant as a snapshot in time.  In kids with comorbidities, that can be really confusing.  For example, I have a friend with a child who had a neurological injury, and has CP, vision impairments, ID and ASD.  Her ASD isn't "severe" but because of the combination of disabilities her support needs are very high.

Yes, I agree with you that on the video this kid has demonstrated some skills that kids who have a sole diagnosis of ASD and Level 3 support needs don't have.  But he also has a diagnosis of RAD, which complicates everything, and causes behavior to be more variable.  [/quote]

That kid does not look RAD.  She was not attached to him which will impact his attachment.  The kid is walking, signing and doing more.  That is not severe ASD.  And, look at early videos you can see something is going on.  He needs a high level of therapies, would be better off in school with therapies vs. homeschooling by an untrained mom with 4-5 other kids and needs lots of 1-1 attention which she couldn't provide with that many kids and her business.  He will always probably need skilled care but there is a lot of potential in him.

It was clear he had a birth injury or in utero and a tumor.  She was told of all this.  This isn't just ASD.[/quote]

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