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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hopefully you approached the conversation more diplomatically than your post title suggests. Your feelings are valid, but your tone and wording implies that you are the boss and you're telling your wife what she needs to do.

If I were in her shoes, I would resist going back to work being approached like that.

On the other hand, if you said you had concerns about family finances and asked me when it would be a good time to discuss it, I'd happily be involved with the conversation and coming up with a plan. That plan may be too look for a job. It may be to cut expenses. It may be a combination of the two. But I'd want the conversation to center on the fact that we are the team.

She may be feeling insecure about her career and current marketability. She may also be feeling undervalued for the effort she put into raising kids and making home life run smoother. I'm almost certain that expressing your appreciation for what she's done will go a long way in helping you achieve your objective. Otherwise it's too easy for her to end up feeling defensive.[/quote]

This is incredibly good advice. [/quote]
+1
I wish you were my friend and gave me good advice like this.[/quote]

+100.  OP came off sounding like a jack***.  They went in together on her being part time, [b]they need to decide what to do next together too[/b].[/quote]
They did. She was to return to work full time. OP’s wife has unilaterally decided to break that agreeement. Perhaps OP should just quit his job and sit at home all day like his wife? [/quote]

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