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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Best decision I made in our marriage was to stay at home starting when our first of three was born.  I saw the way things were going fairly early on and recognized that although I could “have it all” with a career - it was going to come at a cost trying to balance everything.  Still happily married nearly 20 years later.  [/quote]

It only works if you don't value having a career. I do, so I didn't quit. I just didn't do things on the second shift that had no value to me, and outsourced a lot.  Of course, I did only have two children, which helps a lot with domestic workload.
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It also only works if you have money. As the child of a mother who stayed home, and was perpetually anxious about her financial security which (in part) led to her staying in a bad marriage, I worry about leaving the workplace. I have these issues with DH described on this thread, and tbh, I’d don’t love my career and would rather be with my kids, but I worry it would end up worse for me if I quit. Also, what if he gets sick and can’t work, or leaves you, or dies, etc….Yes, there’s life insurance, but what about health insurance, retirement, college savings, etc. Maybe I worry too much….[/quote]

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