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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]op - many many many many (many more than know it) have 'elements' of asd. It's not a hard and fast 'line' that someone is suddenly a full blown 'autist' oftentimes. Many humans have to work on cognitive flexibility, perspective taking and executive function. Truly if you think about it; those are the tenets of much of couples therapy. So I would sort of take the autism out of it (it's so so so common now). what specific challenges are you experiencing? the fact that he is not defensive or overly emotional is huge.  [/quote]

Wrong.

Talk Theory and couples therapy does not work with nor for someone on the spectrum.

They need their neuropysch diagnoses and then targeted therapy with a psychologist who specializes in high functioning autism adults and their NT/AS “relationships.”

DBT is often prescribed and an excellent one year program for HFA individuals to learn better life habits and communication habits. It gets past the masking. Again, with the Dx and telling them ahead of time the patient is ASD, in need of special communications, steps and accountability.[/quote]

Talk therapy was disastrous for my DH after his HFA diagnosis. I begged him to do DBT based on reasons like those described here but he insisted on therapy with some random person his primary care doctor recommended. She had no experience with adult HFA diagnoses and somehow led him to a place where he believed that the multi-day neuropsych testing and diagnosis he had received from a premier practice was not real and that I had forced it on him.

I found out later about the acronym DARVO and DH definitely deployed it during his therapy sessions in an extremely effective manner. Therapy can be pretty disastrous if someone isn't trained in helping intelligent HFA patients with decades of maladaptive coping mechanisms under their belt.[/quote]

Amen to all of the above. [/quote]

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