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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Outlier. I would do anything  necessary to take care of my MIL.  It wouldn’t matter what others are doing.  It’s not about that.  It’s about her.  It would be about keeping my MIL safe and comfortable.  [/quote]

That is what the wife eventually did. Found the best solution. Just remember, you are not always the best solution, though you would probably hate to know that.[/quote]

And being left alone at home for 4 hours at a time every weekday is not safe for this MIL.  Team Wife for being willing to call BS on the rest of the family's delusions.[/quote]

Again.  This is FIL's life and this is Op and his sisters' mom that we are talking about.  There is a grieving process going on here and it can take a little time for a family to accept what is happening to their loved one.  I remember the day we place dad in a locked Alzheimer's ward.  It was horrible, sad but also something that I knew needed to be done.  We knew at that point that there was no choice.

You have to be a little bit patient with people.  This is not a "case" to them, this is a much beloved family member.[/quote]

so when did the sister start posting on here?

OP needs to back his wife and make his sister accountable.  OP's wife is the one who has finally come up with a resolution in all of this mess.  What is OP's sister doing?  OP needs to understand how this is going to mentally affect his relationship with his wife.  He has not done right by her.  [/quote]

You have clearly never gone through anything like this in your family but I actually have.  Losing a 60 something, formerly capable parent to early onset Alzheimer's is horrifying and not something that you just all of a sudden know how to handle.  By the time they get diagnosed with it, they are having significant issues.  You try meds at first to see if the progression can be slowed down.  But they keep on deteriorating anyway....I can not imagine going up to a man who is losing his wife and the mother of children in such a horrific way and telling him to speed up the decision process buddy, the Nanny ain't cheap![/quote]

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