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I guess we'll have to disagree on this.  I don't think the birth parent gets to decide on behalf of the adoptee that the adoptee will maintain his/her birth as a secret.  The good news is that modern technology being what it is, people should now understand that the person they are placing for adoption might come back later, and add that fact into their decisionmaking.[/quote]

You are talking about different spheres of information.

And adopted person should not be made to keep their birth a secret. They should not have to keep the fact that they were adopted a secret. But whether a specified, particular woman gave birth to a child is information that belongs to that woman.

I'd argue that similarly, whether a given child was born to a particular family is their information, not the family's. So if it got down to it, for example, if your father was a mass murderer, you should have privacy and control over the fact you -- an identified person -- were born to him. The family shouldn't be able to "out" you if you have chosen not to reveal that information.

[/quote] Excellent explanation.[/quote]

Really? I think this is a bizarre perspective. I have an obligation not to publicly acknowledge my child if they don’t acknowledge me? Why? Why is info re: family in the hands of the youngest member thereof? Like, I as the mass murderer have the right to identify my parents against their will, but not my children? That makes no sense. Throwing in the mass murderer angle just scrambles your intuitions because there’s a “good” reason for the privacy sought... But that intuition has nothing to do with it being a parent’s v a child’s privacy right. [/quote]

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