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Hey, how do? :) Glad you wrote back. Thanks.

[quote]Makes COMPLETE sense. Honestly, after diagnosis, we said no to many family vacations and dinner invitations so we could get a handle on things. I agree that the family was creating quite the pressure cooker situation here. [/quote]

Well, but, for them -- everything's on fire, right? There's no pause button. Every decision is made on the fly as more information and stresses are coming right at them. It would be hard for them to take the big picture in the middle of it, right? I mean, in a less stressful circumstance, I'd hope they'd make different decisions, but I totally get it.

[quote]Thanks for the clarification. This thread touched very close to home with our diagnosis, so I felt the need to communicate how hard it would be for SIL/BIL. But there were quite a few ways for them to make this much easier for all involved. They didn't. And I think OP handled it well considering! [/quote]

I could tell it was a bit close to the bone, and I didn't want you feeling quite as piled on if I could help it (also a normal reaction, but a painful one to carry, I imagine). I do think OP did well, and I do think sometimes it's best to pull back. She made it work, though everyone might make different choices in the future.

[b]But for me, it was the clusterfuckiness[/b] plus the "oh my god, I cannot control my kids' reactions, and even if we do the right things and say the right things, the tension is going to be at a breaking point, and it will make it worse." So. Family members with celiac disorder? I'm all in. Don't feel like you aren't just as amazing as anyone else, and just as loved, and just as valued. My issue was with the perfect storm of it, not y'all.  [/quote]

OP here - yep, that about sums it up  :) [/quote]

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