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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I didn't mean it derogatorily. A lot of people get personal fulfillment out of their job. Some people feel like they are better in the workforce than at home for any number of reasons. Some people feel like the advantages of the extra money outweigh the benefits of having a parent stay at home without earning money. [b]I think that whatever the reasons, I understand that everyone has to make the choice they think is best for themselves, their families, and society as a whole. I just think that people need to be honest about the tradeoffs. [/b]People seem to be offended that others have suggested that there is any tradeoff. I understand that some people may truly feel that way, but I also understand that others do not feel that way. It just seems crazy that folks are getting so defensive.[/quote]

Then be honest with yourself and understand that you have tradeoffs as well - and they're not all financial trade offs - there are trade offs to your kid as well.  And you made the best choice for your family by having your wife stay home to be with them all the time - but there are socialization and educational trade-offs to your kids.  They aren't getting as much diversity, education, and socialization like they would if they were in daycare/preschool.  So you own that and I'll own my tradeoffs.

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or possibly better food, better housing, better schooling or specialists (if needed), better college, better extra-curriculars, better retirement (for you and them in the long run). There are a host of reasons that people have dual incomes for. It's not just about the trade off of daycare verses staying home during the infant to preschool years. There are also many reasons for staying home beyond whether or not the parent is a better caregiver than an outside source during the early years.[/quote]

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