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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here. I would do anything and everything necessary to be with my kids during the early years. At least from 1-3. Daycare can kick in at 3. And yes, I have done it all: moved to a cheaper area, worked from home, cut expenses etc. etc. Being with my kids absolutely trumps making money. As long as we have enough we have enough. Love, care and time over all are important to a child's early development...being able to afford nice clothes, toys, vacations, camps etc. is not as important to a child's emotional well-being as is being with Mom.

I would never leave an infant in daycare. Never. I would never leave an under 2 year old in daycare. Never. I do judge people who leave their under 2s in daycare because there ALWAYS are other ways. We got by on very little money for a very long time because we changed our priorities. It's not a bad life - just different. So nobody can tell me "I HAD TO leave my 6 months old at daycare 8 hours a day because I HAD TO work." No. You just didn't look hard enough for other options.[/quote]

You are really going to struggle if you ever start spending a lot of time with older children and teenagers and see how little SAHM parenting before age three has to do with their emotional health and well-being.

I stayed home for that period myself but I don't think it provided some magical properties.[/quote]
Perhaps you didn't engage during those critical foundational years. There's no magic. You need to know what you're doing.[/quote]

You really need to stop with the wishful thinking before it harms your children. My own SAHM thought and acted like you. It took a lot of therapy to undo. Having your mom's emotional self-worth entirely dependent on her perception of being a better mother to you than others is very damaging.[/quote]
I'd like to think most of us are doing are best possible parenting. GL to you.[/quote]

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