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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If OP's angst is about Christmas and getting ready, there is an expression, "Tradition is the tyranny of fixed expectations."[/quote]

I think that OP’s angst is that her husband expects her to do all of these things, but he doesn’t explicitly say it.  So she is left wondering how this got to be her job.

It’s kind of wild that so many people are telling her to just accept that it’s her job, calling her whiny, and giving her tips on how to be more efficient.  [/quote]

[b]Her husband does jobs [u]when asked[/u]. [/b]What difference does it make what he "doesn't explicitly say". She asks for a tree, he provides tree.

I swear some of you are determined to manufacture problems out of nothing.  [/quote]

Why does he need to be asked? He's an adult. OP is not the project manager.[/quote]

Because OP wants it done and doesn't want to do it. It's not his expectation, it's hers. Therefore, she's responsible for asking for what she wants/needs. He can leave it undone and be totally happy.[/quote]

That's a copout.  These are children and household related things that need to get done.  DH doesn't get to say, "our household and kids need only the bare minimum, and no holiday observance" and call it a day.[/quote]

Yeah, actually, he does. And then, if it's important to her to do these non-essential things, she gets to do them.[/quote]

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