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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m jealous of their money. Not jealous of their spouses. Most of my law school classmates who stayed in big law are honestly the most obnoxious and insufferable people I know. [/quote]

+1 I think it takes a huge ego to make it in big law. Would be tough to be married to that.[/quote]

+1 and they think they work harder and are more important than anyone in the whole wide world. I have never met people who complain about work more than big law attorneys. You would think they were working in a coal mine. Could not be married to that, especially if I were single-handedly shouldering 95% of the parenting, which is basically a given. I will take my and my DH's middling but adequate non-profit pay any day. [/quote]

OK but your post is off.  Yes they think they work harder because they do.  Your coal mine example is nonsense.  Yes I would rather be a Biglaw Partner than a coal miner.  Of course.  But the Biglaw Partner is working way more hours at a much higher stress level for bigger stakes.   [b]And they are more important that most people. [/b] And today in 2024 who gives 95% of the parenting to the stay at home wife?  Almost no one including Biglaw partners.  Is it more than 50% on the wife?  Sure.  But most Biglaw partners are pretty heavily involved in children's lives.  This is not 1970 or 1980.  [/quote]

The guy who handles my plumbing, police officers, teachers, and the nurse practitioner I see for checkups are WAY more important than any biglaw partner (many of whom are actually making the world WORSE.)[/quote]

Oh and also, based on my time in biglaw as an associate, approximately 0% of partners were “pretty heavily involved in children’s lives.” Though some of them did at least know what grades their kids were in.[/quote]

I don’t think you know as much about these partners’ lives as you think you do.[/quote]

I know that they never left the office, and that they complained about how their wives complained that they don’t know their own kids.[/quote]

See its comments like this that show you are off.  Since the pandemic most partners are not in the office much --- and they would not complain about what you said to anyone.[/quote]

Bingo. I haven’t been to the office once since late July/early August. When I do go in it’s typically for a group lunch or something, so I’ll  arrive 10 or 11, eat with the associates, check in around the office afterward, then leave in time to beat traffic and HOV hours.

Most (though not all) of my partners are the same. Everyone’s at home whenever we have Zoom calls. One spends about 50% of his time at a beach house.

Sure, I work hard/late occasionally, but that’s fairly rare. Our average partner utilization is sub-60%. The challenging period in biglaw is much earlier—mid/senior associate through income partner. After that it’s pretty good. [/quote]

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