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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My children make my life much harder, they're very expensive and I spend a lot of my time doing things I don't want to. Sometimes, they're REAL a-holes.

But they are also the two best people I've ever met, and I'm very happy to have them around. More vacations would be nice, but I still have no regrets.

I can't explain it and don't expect people without kids to understand, but they should also get that when I politely tell them how luck they are, I don't really mean it. I'm just being nice.[/quote]

Maybe just...don't lie to people. 
Are these people asking you what you think of their lives? I doubt it. If you're randomly lying to them that they're lucky for no reason, you are NOT being nice. You are being passive aggressive. Just keep your thoughts to yourself. [/quote]

DINKS very casually tell you that your children are "crotch fruit", deride you as breeders, complain about kids they have had to see in public places, mock you for your future tuition payments and then talk AT LENGTH about their vacation plans. Instead of shoving them away and shouting "I LOVE MY CHILDREN", I nod politely as I look for someone else to talk to, and say "Oh you're so lucky to get to travel that much."

NO one is lying or being passive-aggressive, it's a conversational way to politely deflect the eternal bores that DINKs tend to be. [/quote]

No one has ever said this to me. This sounds like a crazed fantasy expressed only online by a crazed pro-childrearing person (that's you). Not by normal parents.  Much like the crotchfruit talk is expressed only online by crazed child haters. Not by normal childfree people. [/quote]

Believe it or not, the point still stands. When you brag about your incredible childfree lifestyle and we nod and look past you for anyone else to talk to and mumble something like, "oh that's great, so jealous!" we're not telling you anything other than we don't care but are not as rude as you.[/quote]

Isn’t the opposite true? People without kids will politely listen to mothers ramble on about their children, even when they couldn’t care less. The world would be boring if we all made the same choices. [/quote]

Look - as a DINK, I DO care about other people's kids. I don't relate to every second of what you're talking about - and no, I don't care about all of it. But we care about people. We have deep emotional connections with people of all ages and in all kinds of families. Why do you all seem to think that we're just walking around in disco clothes always looking for the next bar?[/quote]

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