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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My cousin had tutors for her DD all throughtout MS/HS -- the girl is smart but fully admits the tutors are how she got by.  The parents also made sure she had the "right" extracurriculars (summer internships at friends jobs, a "charity" she started when she was too young to have thought of the idea.)  She just got into a great university.  So yes, there's definitely truth to the fact that parents involvement help.  (And, they'll get her tutors throughout college too so it's not like it's going to catch up with her).[/quote]

As someone who tutored in high school, I can't imagine anything worse for my kids than to have to get through high school and college with tutors. Maybe your kid just isn't that smart. So why use tutors to try to inflate their learning for a period of time, only to then take away their assistance? It's like saying "my kid was swimming by 8 months" when in reality your kid had floaters on and then couldn't handle being without them when they were 4, by which time other kids, who took the time at a more appropriate age to learn how to swim, were actually swimming better. Not a perfect analogy, and maybe I've just been lucky to have kids who have always been above grade-level in all subjects, but to me, tutors are for kids who are struggling. If your kid isn't smart enough to take linear algebra in high school, then math probably isn't the career path for them. Why would you force it on them? It sounds miserable to me.[/quote]

I can’t remember if I posted on this thread or a different thread but I think the math teaching is lacking these days with technology. There are a lot of small group teaching where elementary teachers group kids of different ability together and the kids are moved around from group to group. With much of the work being done online, parents don’t even know if their kid is understanding the math these days.

Many parents I know do some sort of math enrichment. This may be because their kid loves math and wants more math. The kid may not be struggling but parents want to make sure the child has a strong foundation in math so that the child won’t struggle as math advances. Or the kid is actually struggling in math and needs help.

I was a strong math student and never had math enrichment. Neither did DH. My kids are also strong in math. Covid left a gap for my two older kids so we did some mathnasium for them. My kids have As in their math classes. [/quote]

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