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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But my kids weren't a breath away from an anxiety disorder and are happy people. I think that's worth more than going to a higher-ranked college.[/quote]

OP here.  I don’t think that was the choice.  My kids were probably going to be happy either way.

The realization that I have come to is that I traded opportunities to improve my kids chances for easier weekends and less hectic weeknights.

At the time I didn’t realize that’s what I was doing - but that’s what I did.

If we had pushed math more would they have had a better chance at UVA and Michigan- almost certainly.

If we had done travel sports I don’t know if they would have played in college but they would’ve almost certainly made the highschool baseball team.

In the plus side I did have a lot more in the 529s than I would have if I pursued additional opportunities.

What gets me is I thought we were already doing a lot. We sat with them while they did their homework., they were always on a team I even coached a couple of their  teams early on.

For the posters, who were saying that life’s a marathon, and not a sprint. I think you’re missing the point.  A parent’s  strategy is open as many doors as possible.  It’s up to them to choose the door.  I think the net results of not pushing harder in sports and academically was there fewer doors for them to go through[/quote]

OP, if every parent is doing what you suggest, then your kid still probably wouldn't get into those schools because, well, there's not enough room in their classes for every kid. It's a crapshoot.

I'm sorry you're disappointed your kid didn't get into what you consider a better school. Just don't let them know of your disappointment because that is something they'll never forget.

[b]I work at a fairly prestigious organization and a lot of my colleagues making the highest salaries (if that is your main criterion for success in life) did not go to T50 schools.[/b][/quote]

Exactly. I really wonder how much life experience many of the posters here have. I went to a top 10 university and a top 5 law school. My best friend went to a state school DCUM would never consider and a public law school that again, no one would look twice at. We're both lawyers and she makes seven figures a year and I make a third of that. We're at different firms and we've obviously made different life choices but where we went to school (even law school) has not equated to our current salaries. There are so many choices on the road of life, and it's so bizarre to me that some of you people think that taking calculus in ninth grade is going to determine whether someone makes above $200k or not. Life is about so much more than what math classes you take in high school, and it seems to me that people who don't equip their kids with the skills to handle the things life really throws at you are missing the point. But keep on keeping on with your math tutors.[/quote]

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