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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Boomers are too busy and galavanting around on vacations to help their kids and grand kids, sad. Another example of boomer selfishness on top of the wealth taking and focusing younger generations to find their lifestyles, sad.

https://www.foxnews.com/media/millennials-feel-abandoned-parents-available-help-raise-grandkids-busy.amp[/quote]

Don't have children expecting your parents to be your free child Care.  We took care of our kids and you can do the same.[/quote]

I think the point of the article and the point many posters are making is that many parents by and large did not take care of their children without assistance from their family but now that they are the grandparents they arent paying it forward.

Many posters here including myself were practically raised by our grandparents during summers but have not received the same type of assistance from our parents. [/quote]
you need to really take a good look at the lives of boomer women compared to silent gen women.  Do you think women in the silent generation worked until they were 65 and helped take care of grandkids? No, they did not. Many were sahm.  Did you grandmother work until she was 65? I doubt it.  Most women of that generation didn't even work, and if they did, they quit after having kids. Not so with boomer moms.  They worked even after having kids. And that is tough, as you know. So, I don't blame these women who after having worked and taken care of kids for most their lives (probably mostly on their own without their husbands help), don't want to continue taking care of little kids after they retire. I sure wouldn't, and I'm genx.

[img]https://www.researchgate.net/publication/317085738/figure/fig2/AS:582376870649856@1515860874257/US-Womens-Labor-Force-Participation-1910-2010-Sources-Authors-calculations-based-on.png[/img]

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https://www.dol.gov/agencies/wb/data/lfp/women-by-age
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Im the PP you are replying to and Ill emphasize that I made this same point earlier about SAHM (my grandmother) vs my own mother who is still working at 60 and therefore cant provide care. There are societal factors at play and therefore society needs to catch up. My mother DID benefit from having help as did many others in her generational cohort which is why they are selfish because they balk at societal efforts to assist with childrearing because they benefited from individual assistance due to other womens free labor. Boomers by and large scoff at widespread efforts to assist with childrearing. They talk about bootstraps but forget they had the free labor of women in their familiy donning their hats and shoes for them.

They scoff at childcare costs and summer camps and afterschool care. The problem is that instead of 50% of the population needing those services , its now 80-90% so costs go up, demand is up, and supply is actually down. These are costs that a majority of the population did not have to bear with earlier generations. The FSA allowance hasnt been increased in decades. The child care tax credit is actually DECREASING this year for taxes.

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