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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I was in my 20's I went into therapy because I was unhappy and struggling with life. I was angry with my dysfunctional parents for my difficult childhood. I was focused on me me me and what I needed.

I wrote my Dad a letter about how his alcoholism and marital abuse affected me and my life. He never responded but I am sure it hit him in the gut. Years later I realized that's all I really wanted, to inflict maximum pain on my parents. Hurt people, hurt people. It seemed fair at the time. I was satisfied.

Decades later I see my parents (now dead) in a larger picture, they were products of their upbringing. They were raised in the depression, large families, under brutal parents and religion. They themselves had too many kids to manage successfully because birth control wasn't available. They struggled to keep a marriage together under the stress of not enough money and too many kids.

So decades later, I feel sorry for them not angry with them. It took some living to see the picture clearly.[/quote]

I told my father something really terrible, on the advice of an older friend I cpmsidered wise and mature and knew all about psychological things. It ruined any chance we had of ever repairing our relationship. Huge mistake.  He's been dead for a long time and i still regret it as if it just happened every time I think about it.  :oops: [/quote]

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