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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look kids aren’t dumb, they figure it out and often attribute any supposed advantages (height, weight, muscle mass, etc.) that an older peer might have to their older age. Children are very focused on people’s ages in general, haven’t you noticed this? It’s one of the first things they ask.

My kid has a fall birthday. He was 13 throughout 8th grade. He took 3 ninth grade classes (4 if you include FL) and played on the JV tennis team. He’ll start on varsity this year. He’s aware that he’s younger than his peers and I think it adds to his confidence level that he keeps up rather than detracting from it. I remember being in 6th grade and thinking that the few kids who were a whole year older than us were the “dumb” or “slow” ones because they should have been in a higher grade.

Do what you want but, on the whole, I don’t think you are doing your kid any favors by holding them back.[/quote]

There are several "held back" kids in my kids' grades. In no way are they outcasts, looked down on, or considered dumb or slow. They have as many friends as the rest and the kids may know their age but it's more like "How come he gets to be the first one to be 8" so all the doom and gloom doesn't exist at all from what I can see.[/quote]

Maybe at 8 but kids become much shrewder and aware of how hierarchies work in the real world by middle school. Plus you don’t know what any of these kids privately think in their heads. It’s not like I announced my thoughts to anyone, I knew they were not “nice.” Just honest.[/quote]

My brother, on the other hand, started K as a 4 year old and struggled a lot more academically, socially, etc. He should have been held back.[/quote]

Your parents aren't alone in sending kids to school before they're ready. I made the exact same mistake. I sent my December-born son to Kindergarten at 4 and also struggled in school. Not only did he graduate high school without having taken any Calculus, but he also took 6 years to get his Bachelor's degree. To this day, I still regret not waiting a year. Had I waited a year, I just know he would've graduated college in the normal 4 years, and not experienced the humiliation of watching all his friends graduate before him.[/quote]

6 years for college is absurd.   [/quote]

Well, he dropped out at 17 after his first semester, so he technically wasn't in college for 6 years. I just meant that 6 years passed between him graduating high school and him graduating college.[/quote]

Did you get him help when hew as struggling or just make excuses?  My child has SN and we sent them at 4/5.  We got them all  the supports and help they  need  and are thriving.  So, either your child struggled based off IQ or other reasons like mental health and/or needed a lot of supports that  they didn't get.[/quote]

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