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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was already on the fence about adoption because of the experiences of some adoptees who are close to me, but after reading this thread and learning more, I am feeling adamantly opposed to it. I hope there will be big changes.

It's unbelievable that adoption still widely enjoys a good reputation, of providing a better life, etc, when it is actually so sordid, corrupt and toxic.[/quote]
I don’t understand your point of view. Do you think the alternative of foster care is better? Because that’s what happens when the adoption option is gone. You think that’s better for the kids?[/quote]

I think it would be best if adoption were very rare. As it is now, it is greatly declined in the past 20 years. More mothers are keeping their babies.

https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2021/10/adopt-baby-cost-process-hard/620258/

As for women who are giving up their children today, we know that at least some of them are pressured or coerced. We know that at least some of them were in temporary bad situations (lost job, lost partner, etc) and that they regretted the decision either immediately or very soon after.

And we know that adoptees suffer many losses, which they weather with varying degrees of success.

So, some adoptions may be unavoidable, because a child really does need parents and cannot have that from her biological family. But it seems that many adoptions ARE avoidable, involving birth mothers who want their babies but are taken advantage of in a corrupt system that profits from their loss. That's what I would like to see end.[/quote]
Perhaps we aren’t so far apart then. I do agree that no one should be forced or coerced to place their children for adoption (although I also think that sometimes mothers are coerced to raise kids they don’t want to and that’s a problem also — and those kids also suffer).[/quote]

Not the topic.  And, some birthparents don't want to parent.[/quote]

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