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PP here.  We were 3-4 times/week while dating and first part of marriage- didn't change until we started trying to get pregnant.  Only a year between the kids so infrequent sex seemed somewhat normal/expected.  Once the kids turned 5/6 I tried very hard to return to previous frequency - all the romance I mentioned above - but no success.

We actually get along well otherwise and she is a great mother.  I don't want to hurt the kids but it seems unavoidable...[/quote]

Just chiming in to say that this is very close to my timeline. The main difference is that our frequency before kids was probably less - maybe twice a week. And our frequency after kids seems higher - about once every 3 or 4 weeks. But we had the almost clinical "trying to conceive" sex, the expected drop after kid 1, and more "trying to conceive sex" before kid 2. After kid 2, there was another expected drop in sex that I kind of took for granted because infants and toddlers are hard and lots of people say, "your sex life will bounce back." Then, when the kids hit school age and our sex life didn't bounce back, I tried a lot of these recommendations and nothing worked. During our periodic discussions about the reasons, my wife said she wanted to want to have sex but she just didn't. She eventually chalked it up to her body image issues which, obviously, I have limited ability to help out with. I was unhappy for several years, but as I've gotten into my 50s, my sex drive has dropped and it no longer seems like such a big deal. Other than our sex life, our marriage is pretty good.[/quote]

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