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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You signed a prenup and received your own financial security today at the expense of your daughter’s security tomorrow.

You have made it clear that you find her ungrateful.

You let her know she’s not a priority in your marriage, not a priority in your household. And neither man who could have actual father or father figure role think she’s worth very much.

You refuse to show empathy. Create an environment where it’s DD vs the peaceful (and financial well off) household.

Oh and you’re also pushing this narrative of the ungrateful, wild, jealous, immature, spoiled child to try and get ahead of the truth DD might share.

You are a piece of……work. I hope you now take the time to work on your relationship with your daughter. Soooo much is at risk here. [/quote]

I agree with you PP, but I think our advice is either falling on deaf ears (or more than likely no ears at all) as I imagine the OP has completely stopped checking the thread by now.

She probably stopped checking a few pages back, because she cannot handle criticism.
It's easy to convince yourself that you've done nothing wrong, when you don't have the truth thrown in your face.

It was clear from the very first page (when she said she hadn't even discussed this with her new DH yet) that the OP deals with stressful situations by NOT dealing with them.

She lives her life in complete avoidance -- it's her mantra.

She's a textbook case of thinking that she's not good enough for her new DH, so she will do just about anything to avoid rocking the boat with him... as opposed to advocating on her ONLY child's behalf.

It was obvious by her last update that she was getting fed up/frustrated that we weren't seeing things from her side.  
She wanted us to be supportive of her, agree with her and tell her ONLY what she wants to hear (whenever someone starts a sentence with "Look..." it usually means they're getting ready to check out/avoid at all costs).

This way mom can go back to being a good little stepford ostrich and stick her head right back in the sand, she can keep deluding herself into thinking that none of this was her doing and certainly not her fault, and most importantly, she can keep repeating to herself that the entire blame is assigned exactly where it belongs...

squarely upon her innocent child's shoulders.

One thing's for sure... if you continue to care more about your step-childrens feelings (you remember those kids, the ones that get every single thing they've ever wanted in life, right?) as opposed to the feelings of your own child, she will have deep seeded trust issues with you for the rest of her life.

You couldn't have f@cked your daughter more if you'd actually tried (four words come to mind -- treacherous, toxic, treasonous & traitor).

On the other hand, you may want to reserve that $30,000 -- for therapy bills for your poor child, as her mother has completely betrayed her. 
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