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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi, this is Op again. I don’t want to out my son but he is half Asian American and half parent from another country. Not Georgetown Day, but I don’t think it would be wise to say which one. I thought most schools prefer not to use the term safety anymore because no school is a “safety” or sure bet anymore. Our school also calls them “likelies.”
We slip up a lot and still call them safeties but they are right, there are no safe bets.

I think my son will have to be convinced that calling admissions reps won’t be bothering them and making his chances even worse. I hope the counselor is encouraging because he is more likely to trust her advice than ours, we are old and out of it.

This is our only child, so we having nothing to compare. We know the application process is hard this year and we were trying to be realistic but never thought he would only get in one school.

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Unfortunately, I think your DS being Asian-American hurt his candidacy, particularly with the private universities you listed (I don't get what happened with UVM).  Other HAPAs try to obscure being of Asian descent (I am not saying that you did this), but the Common App's request for information on parents' education and place of birth will raise the issue anyway.

Your counselor should have accounted for this and added either larger publics (where they have more slots) and/or SLACs, particularly in the South and Midwest (where being Asian may be viewed more positively).

+1. Another Asian-American here, who gave my HAPA kids first and middle names that don't give away their Asian ethnicity specifically to avoid this kind of discrimination. Our last name is sort of vague and could be European, which helps (didn't help me back in the day, because my first name/ my parents' names/ their places of birth/ the colleges they went to all gave it away).

They can continue to try to engineer a system that discriminates against Asians, and we'll continue to find ways around it. My kids will NEVER check that box on their applications.

I am Asian-American and this happened to me.  I went to an Ivy/T14 university that did not have many Asians relative to the student population.  But for the legacy boost for my own DC, this same discrimination would have happened to him too.  It's just part of the stupid admissions game now.[/quote][/quote]

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