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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the adoptive mother of a beautiful DD, I have been reading this thread with horror.  DD is korean so she knows she is adopted, but I don’t know what I’ll say if she wants to contact her family in 15 years. I normally would have been supportive, but I just don’t know anymore.[/quote]
I think you tell her that it’s possible her birth family may not want to talk to her and to tread lightly. Talk to a counselor who specializes in adoptions. [/quote]  This.  I have a Korean daughter.  I have told her she has the right/ability when she is 18 to contact the adoption agency.  They will contact the birth mother who may or may not want to meet her--and she needs to be prepared for either answer if and when she is ready to make that choice.  She also understands that reunions are sometimes wonderful and sometimes awful.  Part of parent is preparing your child for what lies ahead.  If she does search, I will encourage her to meet with a therapist who works with adoptees prior to her initial outreach.  I will support her decision what ever she chooses.  However, I know the circumstances of her birth (and as she has gotten older and asked I have shared age appropriate information) and it is unlikely her birth mother will want contact. [/quote]

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