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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay guys, OP here. Again. I went back and forth on continuing this thread, but ultimately I decided to update.

You can't train a bunch of 60 yos on how to take care of a 1 or 2 yo while hosting a wedding. No way.

I have a 1 yo and 3 yo and neither set of parents remembers anything about raising kids 60 years ago. They're nuts. Have some gatorade, no need for a nap. One grandpa almost ran over one toddler on two separate occasions when reparking his car - did n't realize the kid follows everyone around. Still doesn't realize it!  our youngest had her finger in the inner hinge of a heavy porch door when the wind blew it shut and swashed her thumb at their house, right in front of 5 of them! They were too busy chit-chatting to see any danger with the kid. They just don't see it! they don't think like a 24/7 caregiver like a mother or father or nanny would. Must be on the ball 24/7.

After the nerve damage thumb incident no one said a think. They looked awful and torn, and knew they had hurt their grandchild. No one in that room was paying attention to that child. And this wasn't even at a wedding or major holiday. Some people cannot be trusted to watch young children.  We all have some of those in our lives. For us it is one grandma and the grandfather from the other side. Not their cup of tea and it is dangerous.

We even canceled a reunion weekend trip since we did not feel right about leaving a baby and 2.5 yo at the time with one set of grandparents. Of course, they would have loved it, but they were naive and didn't understand what they had volunteered to do. We pulled the plug on it. Now that the kids will be older soon, can speak up, and drive their own routines, it might work out. But both sets of grandparents are not local, they are not surrounded by little kids and seeing childcare in action. That makes it worse, to step into that role after 50 years off and no exposure to babies or toddlers except 1 or 2x a year. Not cool. [/quote]

Same here. Ma didn't check where the fingers were and the restaurant door slammed on them. ER room + nerve damage in two fingers + hand surgery. [/quote]

So much this.  I think I said the same about 20 pages back.  Only grandchild who lives in a different city that they don't see often?  Yeah, they have no idea how to take care of him.  And two is tough age -- fast enough to wander away in 2 second, but absolutely no sense of danger.  If I were OP's wife, even if there weren't strained relations with the inlaws, I'd have serious concerns about toddler's safety.  [/quote]

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