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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he was surprised by the conversation, his first reaction may not have been the best reaction.  Don’t blow this out of proportion.

[b]Double barrel names aren’t common outside of certain cultures and they can be a burden.   [/b]

This is a good chance to use communication skills that will serve you both well in marriage.  Good luck![/quote]

Long live the patriarchy, right?[/quote]

Exactly. People make it sound like it's hard. I'm very disappointed that men don't take a hyphenated name. The expectation that women must bear this burden is absurd. [/quote]

The hyphen names do not work for the future.  Smith-Thomas marries Brown-Jones. What do they do with their kids?  Doing a hyphen names is selfish. [/quote]

Who cares? Conventions change, and it will be your child's problem to decide about their own name! They can be Brown or Jones or Smith or Thomas or Tombrown or Smithjo or Adamski or whatever the heck they want to be. Or Smith-Thomas-Brown-Jones. It does not matter.  You don't make a decision now because MAYBE! COULD BE! MIGHT HAPPEN! that you meet another person with a last name that is difficult. Nobody cares about your double hyphenated name any more than they care about your collection of Beanie Babies.

It's easy to get caught up in stupid what ifs, but if you just remember - nobody cares, do whatever you want as long as you don't hurt others - they you are all set. And not taking your spouse's name hurts nobody.[/quote]

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