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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife complains about money constantly. She also refuses to get a job even part time. There's no excuse since the kids are school aged. She just knows working sucks and avoids it. Can't afford divorce and really know my access to the kids would be too limited for my liking. So I am biding my time and will leave the second our youngest goes to college. She won't know what hit her but that is because she is delusion and has her head stuck in the sand. I will pay a bit of alimony but I will be free at 48. I remind myself of this daily.[/quote]

There can be a disconnect between money and how it's made. When my wife makes a good dinner, I appreciate the effort she makes and the fact that she's the one doing this thing. When she has another $1,000 to spend, I don't think she has a similar appreciation that it was my effort that put the money in the bank account. It's like the money just sort of happens, and I disappear all day. She likes the one and kind of resents the other and, at a gut level, doesn't necessarily feel the two things are related or that I'm doing something less than enjoyable when I'm absent. [/quote]

Working mom here.  Yes, I bring home money, but for the most part I enjoy my job.  I get a break from the kids.  Maybe I get to travel.  If I work hard I get famous, recognized, promoted, and rich.  You don't get those things from staying home cleaning up vomit and changing diapers.

It doesn't seem to me that a breadwinner's job is entirely selfless.  I think being a SAHM is.[/quote][/quote]

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