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[quote=Anonymous]This whole thread is so fucking stupid.  We women really can't win.

I hadn't slept with anyone in my early 20's, and neither had my roommate.  Not for religious reasons, we just hadn't (OK, she had a fundamentalist period in her life and I was raised Catholic, but we were weedy and clubby at that time, and I was a mild alcoholic to boot, and we were both intensely interested in having LTR's and boyfriends, and we didn't have any religious restrictions by that point).

You wouldn't believe the ribbing and teasing we got from our peers.  We were all single, newly graduated, with entry-level jobs and our own apartments, so yeah, we all knew everything about each other--including sexual histories.  They would consider the grief good-natured, but it got really aggravating.  I remember having lots of late-night conversations with my poor roommate, who wondered if there was something "wrong" with us.  I would remind her that it was really, really, really easy for a chick to have sex, that it wasn't a poor reflection on us per se because yeah, I could fix it in a heartbeat by going to any bar and picking up some dude that very night.

Well, she couldn't handle it anymore, and just went ahead and had a one-night stand.  Uh, actually, she slept with some "cute" guy right away, who promptly dumped her after one night, thereby turning it into a one-night stand.  The emotional fallout was pretty awful.

So, yeah, if you DON'T sleep with anyone you're a big freaking weirdo, if you DO sleep with a lot of people, you're a dirty slut.

Do what makes you happy.  I'm almost 40 now, married with kids, and there is NO CORRELATION I see with the number of partners one has had and having a happily-ever-after life.  But I do see a correlation between knowing what you want and making smart decisions and choosing a compatible person.

Stupid numbers game was started by insecure men with inferiority complexes.  It's about as dehumanizing and stupid and putting a moral value on a man just based on his salary (which we women are guilty of, btw).[/quote]

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