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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Wow, strong feelings on all sides. I think that speaks to how raw women still are from our own "relational aggression" experiences. I have 2 girls currently at NCS. Between them, they have experienced lower, middle and upper school. I have appreciated the school's proactive approach to all types of bullying, meaness, etc. and when a problem came up for one daughter she was supported and all moved on quickly. They love their school and do not want leave. If concerned, I suggest direct conversations with current parents in the grade. Each class truly is unique, through it can change at big entry grades. No school is perfect, but we are having a great experience, amazing teachers, and (just our experience) kind, supportive friends. Both of my girls were bullied at their prior co-ed schools, so I have been watching carefully. I think, because they have had this reputation, they are better than most schools about taking it seriously and responding quickly and keeping the conversation on-going with the students themselves.
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We've had similar experience as the PP. I think the school does a good job within their level of control.  I've been impressed over the years when conferences started with questions about DD's happiness, stress level, and friendships - the focus was not on grades/academics.  The school understands girls (and their parents) tendencies toward self-induced pressure, their desire to succeed, and the fact that they won't always behave nicely to one another.   I agree with the PP that open conversation with other parents and the school is the right step in managing through it.  I also think keeping your DDs busy outside of school helps.  Both of my DDs experienced cliquey behavior at their previous schools and learned how to distance themselves from "friends" who dabbled in mean-girl/bullying behavior.  No school can eradicate mean girl behavior.  NCS does a great job in teaching them how to study, write, and be organized by handing out grades that guide them toward the desired behavior.  IMO NCS attempts to guide them towards positive peer relations as well but they can't read their online messages or arrange playdates after school and hand out grades based on those behaviors.  If they did, the desired behavior would be much easier to achieve.  IMO ANY school can only do so much in that space and parents need to share the responsibility of teaching their DDs how to be good friends and make the right choices.  
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