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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A certain percentage of eligible men see issues married men face and decide that it’s not worth it. It’s no different than a certain percentage of women doing the same. [/quote]

Yes, this. Marriage works for my spouse and me but there is a drudgery component that's not for everyone. And the incessant negotiating and compromising is exhausting. Particularly if you don't want kids, why bother? It isn't difficult to obtain sex or friendship these days. That's enough for many, with a nice big dose of freedom. [/quote]

I'm also deep into the early childhood years, and my relationship with my spouse is obviously nothing like it was when we were dating. But--like all parents--we're doing really important work raising the next generation of people who will take on responsibility in our society when we're no longer able to. Every time I think about how exhausted I am from my kids and how much more fun I could be having if I were single and free of responsibility, I try to remind myself that if I and all my fellow parents don't do a good job at this, there won't be anyone to take care of us when we're elderly.[/quote]

That's a reasonable position but, in the throes of it, you can see why others would decline to make that choice, right? I personally don't care if there is anyone to take care of me when I'm elderly and have seen many an elder be let down by their kids in this regard. I also know truly wonderful single parents, who are doing just fine on their own. I don't have the energy for that, and neither does DH, so our partnership worked for us well enough in the childraising years. But I see other paths as being perfectly valid, especially on an overpopulated planet.[/quote]

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