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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are some real ogres on this thread.

Mrs. Fairfax is the victim.  She likely was trying to do what was best for the kids.  So sad.

Remember, at one time she loved him--maybe, she still did.  Just proves that if a smart, educated woman cannot figure this out, how can those with fewer advantages?

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Yes we know she was the victim. That is totally clear. And maybe this was the inevitable outcome no matter what she did. But I think it is really important for women to know that bad situations can get worse and nothing is worth staying with a spiraling or unstable man. Do what you can to get out even if it means living in a small apartment, your kids switching schools, whatever. Call a lawyer with DV experience and figure it out. [/quote]

Stop. There is nothing to “figure out” here. She had a lawyer, she had a court proceeding, and the judge was more focused on giving her husband hype talks as if that man had anything good left to salvage, than protecting her.

There is a reason why women in this situation kidnap their kids and go into hiding - it’s because that is your only option. And for a woman who grew up dirt poor, I’m sure she wanted to do all she could to spare her children from that same fate. [/quote]

She told friends her lawyer advised her she’d risk being found to have abandoned the home if she moved out. [/quote]

Then she got bad legal advice. There is no legal requirement that you extend the misery of living with someone spiraling for years while a divorce moves forward. Or you prioritize your stability over the prospect that you could lose some equity. [/quote]

Well, if you want to keep your kids, there is. You keep on glossing over that. [/quote]

You don’t lose custody of your kids if you move out and get a temporary custody plan.

You are not helping women here. [/quote]

That means leaving the children alone with a violent abuser. Please be honest about what you are recommending women do here. You are saying abused women should move out, leave their minor children alone with a violent abusive man, and hope for the best with a temporary custody order.

Be very honest about what your recommendation for abused women is here. Don’t hide behind vagueness. And then tell us why you think your plan is a good idea for abused women. [/quote]

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Dr. Fairfax knew her stbx had bought a gun and was in crisis.

https://wtop.com/fairfax-county/2026/04/divorce-judge-was-concerned-about-justin-fairfaxs-recent-mental-health-2022-gun-incident-court-documents-show/

The people who could have reported Mr. Fairfax or removed him from his residence or removed his guns from his residence did not take those steps.

The lack of comprehension being espoused by people who think and state that Dr. Fairfax should have 'correctly organized her priorities' is heartbreaking!

Dr. Fairfax obviously DID correctly assess the daily necessity of documenting what was going on at home, legal risks of abandoning her residence and the importance of NOT LEAVING her children alone with a man who had threatened to use his gun to kill himself.

Plus, clearly, Dr. Fairfax abided by the legal process and actions that were in place to dissolve the marriage and separate the marital assets.

https://people.com/crime/illinois-murder-suicide-dad-twin-daughters-5-things/
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Why hasn't anyone posted organizations or legal safe house, temporary physical separation options for women or men who have jobs, children and mortgages?  Because none exist!  If you are a woman or man who has a job, children and a mortgage with an abusive spouse you are not deemed vulnerable or viewed as someone who needs assistance because the prevailing narrative is that people with jobs and mortgages "have resources" and should have been 'smart enough' to know better or should be 'smart enough' to figure it out.

A private dental practice and a NoVA mortgage are not ATM machines.

Praying for good, safe, healthy outcomes for the kids and extended families.[/quote]

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